What is Therapy?
This might sound a bit corny, but I’m going to say it anyways – it takes a lot of courage to look for a therapist. Especially because you always feel responsible to have it all together. I'm excited for you to start live the life that you want!
For a lot of us who grew up with families that didn’t understand mental health, there’s can be a lot of confusion and mysticism around therapy.
So I want to take this time to share with you how I approach our therapy together.
The 4-Phase Therapy to F.R.E.E. Yourself
If you’re not really sure what to expect when in therapy, you’re not alone. This is a huge barrier to your mental wellness. This is why I want to be clear in explaining how we will approach our therapy together.
I work with clients to progress through 4 phases of therapy, which I call F.R.E.E. Usually, therapy starts off in this order. But as we start to do deeper work, we will shift between these phases, based on your needs at any particular moment.
We all experience different feelings and emotions. Some of these can be painful and difficult. We’ll take some time to dive deeper into understanding how your emotions manifests in your body, and why that can be such a painful experience.
In therapy language, “emotional regulation” is referring to the techniques we use to help us “regulate” the emotions we feel. In this phase, we will build a good toolbox of strategies to help you manage the day-to-day.
We’ll explore your past experiences, to understand how that’s linked to your triggers today. This means making connections to your particular family and life situations, and structural oppressions you may have experienced. This will help us connect the dots to move you towards healing and meaningful change.
We’ll be exploring what a happy and meaningful life means to you, and help you commit to making that life a reality, through committed action and deep mindset change.
What Therapy Is
Your whole life, you were told what to do and what to be. And unlike most others, you had it more complicated...
You had grew up with two sets of cultural rules, two conflicting "status" (foreigner vs Canadian), and two conflicting narratives of privilege (“white adjacent” vs anti-Asian racism).
Therapy is about leaving the prison of these rules and categories. It’s about living creatively, in a world that tells you not to.
And to do this, we have to dig deep. That’s where we’ll find your true self.
In this process, you’ll truly uncover the person who you never thought you could be, living a life of alignment that you never knew you could.
What Therapy Isn't
Therapy isn't about changing your expectations to adjust to your life. It is about changing your life to meet your expectations. We're not here to play it safe. We're here to SHOW UP for yourself.
This means therapy isn't about finding a quick fix. It is about life-changing shifts, so you don’t need quick fixes to get you through the day. Because every day becomes a blessing, and not an unbearable pain to endure.
Therapy is not about waiting to be ready to take this journey. It is about jumping into the journey, and learning to trust yourself.
Therapy is not easy. It is an investment. It requires your time, energy, and investment. Are you ready to embrace your BIGGEST, BADDEST version of who you choose to be?
Ready for a Consultation?
A consultation is simply a conversation for us to get to know each other better. It'll help us get a feel for each other, and see if we're a good fit to work together.
While there’s no “right way” to have a consultation, here are a few things that you can think about that might be helpful:
Why now? What is the reason that you have decided to look for a therapist at this current moment in your life?
What do I hope my life would look like in the future?
What do I want in a therapist? What questions do I want to ask this therapist?
And seriously, feel free to make the most out of this consultation time. I’ve even had someone ask me to define “model minority,” to make sure we’re on the same page about it!
Integrating Therapy Into Your Life
Let's make "showing up for yourself" a habit
Consistency = Life Changing
Research shows that consistent, frequent sessions is what will create sustained and lasting changes in your life. We will be working together weekly, to create life changes for now and for your future.
Built In Downtime
Changing your life is exciting, and also intense. That’s why we will have built in breaks in our work together. We will see each other for the first three weeks of the month, and take the last week off.
No more wasting time and energy trying to book your appointments. You’ll have a reserved time slot, to save you all the trouble, and ensure consistency in your mental health.